You wanna go campaign for womens rights? Try the Middle East. Quit projecting this illusion of oppression around the…
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I prefer humanism and human rights. I’ve never seen the need to involve gender. Also, you’ll notice how I didn’t say there was no gender inequality in this society. I just believe feminist attention is better spent elsewhere.
Let me explain you a thing.
I need feminism.
Feminism is about understanding that the world is under a patriarchal system that puts unfair rigid expectations on boys and girls.
Feminism is defined by the Oxford dictionary as
the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
The issue of rights for women first became prominent during the French and American revolutions in the late 18th century, and ‘second wave feminism’ arouse in the 1960s with an emphasis on sisterhood and unity, with important figures such as Betty Friedan and Germaine Greer.
"Grow some balls," "Man up," "Stop being a pussy," "You’re such a girl." I need feminism because these common, every day phases reflect the assumption that being a woman or feminine in any way is a bad thing.
I need feminism because 1 in 4 women will be survivors of rape and our society teaches “don’t get raped,” but for some reason I’ve never heard of our society teaching the message “don’t rape.” I need it because people still ask what the victim was wearing. I need it because I had an ex-police officer come to our school one day and once told us a story about how he was giving a talk to a group of university level males, where one of them asked if it was alright for a woman to be obliged to give him a blow job before she leaves after a date, and several other people agreed with him.
I need feminism because my self worth is dictated by the way I dress, where people believe it’s okay to label someone as “oppressed” or “liberated” by their clothing. I’m a slut if I show my bra strap or if someone considers my shorts too short, but if a man were to go shirtless, he wouldn’t receive those kinds of comments. I’m oppressed if I wear a burka, but it’s okay for people to ogle, catcall and grope me if my skirt comes up to mid thigh, or if they think I’m “sexy?”
I need feminism because 1/3 of 10 year year old girls will have their body as their biggest worry, and sex trafficking is the 2nd biggest industry worldwide, with the UK itself at 4000 girls forced into prostitution. I need feminism because magazines heavily photoshop pictures of celebrities and shamed Kim Kardashian for gaining weight because of her pregnancy.
I need feminism because men also face sex discrimination, especially regarding custody of children, and because men bear the heavy economic burden as the family’s “breadwinner” and in an environment where men and boys are pressured to display dominance and masculinity, they result in serious consequences. Boys are 30% more likely to drop out of school. Compared to a girl of the same age, a boy in his late adolescence is 7 times more likely to commit suicide.
I need feminism because in 45% of homicides against women, the main suspect is a partner or ex-partner. Less than 1% of the world’s property is owned by women, and only 2 women have ever won the Nobel Prize for Physics, with the last one in 1963. According to the most recent statistics from the U.S Census and the National Committee on Pay Equity, women earn 77% of what men earn for the same amount of work. 17% of cardiac surgeons are women, 17% tenured professors. According to “NPR: Hollywood Needs More Women”, there was a fascinating study where in a group of men and women, the men in the group perceived the ratio of men to women as 50-50 when it was only 17% women. If the group is 33% women, the men perceived it as there being more women in the group than men.
I need feminism because nobody asked for my permission to kiss me, I need feminism because it’s okay for someone to engage in sexual acts with me when I’m asleep because it’s seen as an obligation I need to fulfill. I need feminism because my best role models in my life are all successful, amazing women and yet I’m still told that there are some things I can’t do as well as men because I’m a woman. I need feminism because I have friends who have been, according to it’s proper legal definition under Australian law, have been sexually assaulted and have continued to be made uncomfortable by that person even when they said no countless times. I need feminism because when I’m on the train with a few of my female friends, having a night out, there will always be that one person who ogles us without shame the entire trip. I need feminism because I have to choose between a career and a family, and that I will be judged if I’m not married by a certain age, and that I will have to take my husband’s last name when I marry him. I need feminism because I was ashamed of wearing dresses, liking the colour pink, wearing make up. I need feminism because when people hear these things I’m told “Oh, but I prefer the natural look!” News flash, I don’t wear nice undies or shave or wear make up for anyone but myself, but women are pressured by our “fortunate society” to turn this into an obligation that they must fulfill.
While I agree with you that humanism is important and human right’s are necessary for all, I strongly disagree with your statement that “I just believe feminist attention is better spent elsewhere.” I need feminism because how can I dictate feminist attention at other women when I haven’t made the effort to stand up for myself, for women’s rights and feminism within my own personal life? Feminism is an essential aspect to humanism and human right’s. You can’t attempt to implement humanism and ignore feminism at the same time.
"Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. it’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength." - G.D Anderson.
I need feminism so that I can actually stand up for myself without fear of humiliation or violent retaliation or being looked down upon for considering myself a feminist, so don’t you fucking dare tell me that feminism is better spent elsewhere.